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Letters to Our Daughters | April 2012

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Here’s a bit of advice: when you are in a class and your instructor asks you to sit in a circle, never ever sit right next to the instructor. Inevitably, the teacher will ask a question and will want everyone to go around the circle and give an answer. If you are sitting right next to her, then you are either going to be first or last. If you are first, you’ll find yourself caught off-guard and struggling to come up with an answer that doesn’t make you sound like a bafoon. If you are last, by the time it’s your turn, all of the good answers will have already been taken and really, no one is listening to you at that point anyway. I know this from experience. Being the goodie-goodie that I am, at your father’s and my first parenting class, I, of course, sat right next to our instructor (apparently I hadn’t learned my lesson). Sure enough, she begins the session by asking, “What trait of your spouse, do you most want your child to have?” Panicking (because I was first) I blurted out “His lips!”…


His lips?

That was the best I could come up? I’m sure at that point all the other parents-to-be were thrilled because, come on, any answer after that had to better than mine. To be fair, your daddy has very nice lips, but there are so many other qualities your father has that I hoped you would have. For example, his ability to always know the location of his car keys and iPhone (unlike your mother who will lose them 30 seconds after frantically tearing apart the house looking for them). His dedication to exercising regularly no matter how late he stayed up watching Archer and eating Thin Mints. His grammar skills (minus his tendency to correct me—unless I’m asking him to proofread this and then yes, please correct me). His pro-activeness; when your dad makes up his mind to do something, he GETS.IT.DONE. This can drive me crazy but it’s a good balance to my procrastinating ways. He would have had this letter written weeks ago and the next one already drafted. I hope you have his brains (but my common-sense please), his idealism, his dance moves (definitely not mine!), and his laugh… well not exactly HIS laugh because that would be weird coming out of your tiny body but how about his love to laugh?

Mostly though, I hope you inherit your dad’s love of family. I realize that this isn’t exactly a trait, but when I watch your dad with you, I want this for you and your children too. We had no idea at this parenting class what we were getting ourselves into. How you would change our lives. How you would make us better. And no idea of the amazing person you would become—how could we ever?

I guess if I could go back to the parenting class I would say the exact same thing: “His lips!” because I wouldn’t want you any different than you are today.


P.S. I think you may have gotten your Dad’s lips after all.


Please click over to the next blog to follow the circle of blogs starting with the magical work of Jess Sandager and read her birthday letter to her daughter. Do yourself a favor and grab box of tissues first: Olive Avenue Photography by Jess Sandager | Minneapolis Photographer.

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So, you may be wondering, “What’s with the letter Jody?” I was thrilled (and lets just say… a wee-bit-nervous) to be invited to participate in a blog project called “Letters to Our Daughters” with a talented and beautiful group of photographers. Each month we will be writing a letter to our daughters and posting them on our blog. While I am nervous about my photography, I am most nervous about my writing. There is a reason I listed this quote as my favorite on my Facebook page: “If I could tell the story in words, I wouldn’t need to lug around a camera.” ~ Lewis Hine. However, I could not turn down the opportunity to be a part of this. I am awful at writing down anything for my kiddos (I think Stella’s baby book stopped at year one and let’s not talk about the other two) and I know as time passes these posts will mean more and more to our family regardless of my writing skills. Please take a look at the stunning work and beautifully written letters of the other photographers. I’ve admired their work from afar; some for months and some for years. To be included in this group makes my heart swell.

♥ Participating Photographers ♥

Stephanie Beaty :: Sarah Lynn Cornish :: Kirsty Larmour :: Amy Lockheart
Rashmi Pappu
:: Jess Sandager :: Valeria Spring :: Julia Rodgers Stotlar :: Emma Wood

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Rashmi - April 25, 2012 - 11:34 am

She does have his lips. :)
Jodes.. i am never going to believe you ever again. You need to write more. Your writing skills are amazing and the photos that go with.. well you already know how I feel about your unique talent. Stella is going to treasure these words and advice. xoxo

Kirsty-Abu Dhabi - April 25, 2012 - 12:06 pm

Oh gosh how you make me smile… I LOVE this letter in so many ways – and those images.. could they be any more perfect?

Val Spring - April 25, 2012 - 3:17 pm

OMG Jody, you had me laughing out loud to tearing up all in a matter of seconds. Love your authenticity. Love that you answered “His lips” on your parenting class and that you came up to the conclusion of never sitting next to the teacher. I love getting to know you through your amazing photography and seriously awesome writing style. Cause yes, you have a writing style all of your own and it’s fabulous!

Leilani - April 25, 2012 - 4:27 pm

I am just in awe every time you post pictures of your children. You have the most amazing genes.. you have a stunning family!! This is a lovely idea too. I love your writing and this letter was beautiful. Your girls will love love love these when they are older!

Emma Wood - April 25, 2012 - 7:57 pm

Jody, So much love in your images and words. I love that your daughter will have this to keep and read and she does have the most perfect lips…<3

stephanie beaty - April 25, 2012 - 9:30 pm

Such gorgeous images…and lovely words to your sweet girl.

julia - April 26, 2012 - 8:30 am

Jody! I’m so crazy about this letter and your images – I laughed so much (and I think you and I may have been separated at birth), and poured over each image. SO beautiful – all of it. You’re off to a fantastic start and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy being a part of this project with you.

Amy Lucy Lockheart - April 27, 2012 - 2:18 am

Wow, Jody. These images and your words are incredible. You already know that I have admired your work for years, and now I admire your writing as well. Your letter was so touching and heartfelt, full of detail and emotion. I am already looking forward to your next letter. Thank you so much for everything. xoxoxo

Jil Anderson - April 27, 2012 - 7:58 am

Wow! These photos are so beautiful! I am amazed at your ability to capture the mood in each photo. You are so talented!! And, I love your letter too. Very cute but the photos take my breath away.

Julie - April 27, 2012 - 8:41 am

beautiful, daughter, pictures and letter! So bold of you…I would be to terrified to take on such a revealing project (especially because I’m not so good with writing…). Good luck!

Megan Cieloha - April 30, 2012 - 1:52 pm

Jody, your family is truly beautiful, inside and out.

Sarah Cornish - May 2, 2012 - 2:38 pm

What gorgeous gorgeous images of your gorgeous girly! I totally cracked up reading this and am so beyond touched at the same time! I totally would have said something like “his lips” too lol!! Or possibly his freckles lol! I seriously love your honesty and can only imagine how much your daughter is going to treasure these. Honestly I feel like I have known ya forever just by reading this little bit and am so excited to follow you in this project!!

Bridgette Davis {BDphotography} - May 21, 2012 - 11:00 pm

finding this project tonight, on the eve of my first born daughter’s birthday (10th???!!). just wanted to say PLEASE stick with your incredible writing style! it’s been my favorite of the night. what a beautiful project, beautiful girls, mamas, words and hearts. beyond inspiring, thank you.

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